- Gift cards. For some this may be too impersonal, but it is a great way to support local sales, rather than the big multi-national companies. Suggestions: Local Farmers market, local coffee roaster, restaurants.
- Get creative. Make pillow cases with fabric that resembles their interests. Knit or crochet wash clothes for their kitchen or nice wool socks.
- Give color coded towel sets. Using their favorite color or monogram each person’s towel. Make sure you buy quality, thick, large towels.
- Events. Tickets to a play, concert, dance or sports event, yearly membership to a zoo, museum, children’s museum, science center.
- Natural skincare. Find a local supplier of handcrafted items.
- Food items. Homemade is coveted by many. Homemade jams, jellies, quick breads, cookies, candy and jerky are great. For the real food friends: Peanut Butter Bites, Sprouted Lentils in a jar, dehydrated fruits and veggies make a beautiful gift. Who wouldn’t love a jar of dehydrated chili peppers? An excellent coffee or wine is enjoyable if you don’t have time to spend in the kitchen, many times you can find local options.
- Lessons. Often times people are interested in learning a musical instrument, dance or taking a photography, art or quilting class, but don’t splurge on themselves.
- Give a gift of love. Safe drinking water, animals, food, medical care, etc. for those in need around the world. Compassion, World Vision and Samaritan’s Purse are great organizations and have many gift options.
- Service. A gift certificate for car-detailing, manicure & pedicure or a message. An AA membership.
- Magazine subscriptions. There are many many choices - find one to fit with their interests.
- Give time. Homemade gift certificates for a coffee date, game of checkers, babysitting or a walk through a park.
- Joint activities. Give a cookbook and ingredients for a dinner. Set a date to cook together. This works for adults as well as children.
- Give a family photo or family portrait session. Most grandparents just want an updated family photo, perhaps one from each family, or photography session over the holidays when all the extended family is together and a group photo can be captured. A calendar made with special photos of family members is wonderful as well.
- Heirloom seed packs are great for the avid gardener or an essential oil starter kit for those interested in natural healing.
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Tuesday, 2 September 2014
Interesting Gifts for Adults
How hard is it to buy for that adult in your life that HAS EVERYTHING?! Here are some different ideas that won't just sit around and gather dust!
Saturday, 28 June 2014
Clearing a baby's snotty nose
- Put some natural barrier cream on his upper lip to protect the skin from the constant wiping and use extra-soft T-shirts or super soft tissues to prevent irritating the skin.
- Offer breastmilk/formula/water more frequently throughout the day. A well-hydrated infant will keep the boogs moist and easier to remove.
- Find a good quality all natural chest rub and rub it on babies chest and soles of his feet before sleep time.
- Place a pillow between the crib springs and the mattress, so the mattress is slightly raised. The incline helps the mucus to drain better out of the back of the nose and down the throat.
- Standing in a nice steamy room before bed helps clear the airways and loosens any mucous in the nose and lungs, making it easier for baby to clear. For an optimum steamy room start with a cold bathroom and run your shower on HOT - don't get in it or put baby in it though!!
- Add a humidifier to your infant’s room. Extra moisture is essential in keeping the snot from crystallizing and blocking up the nose, just be sure to open the windows and doors during the day to let the damp out again - you don't want the room getting mouldy!
- During the day wear your baby in a sling in an upright or angled position. Not only will he be soothed by your close presence, the angle will help with drainage.
- Give your baby some probiotics to strengthen his immune system. Kelly Mom shares how to do this.
- Put a few drops of eucalyptus or rosemary oil on a tissue and place near the bed (not in it) they are both natural decongestants.
- Suck the snot out! You can either do it the old fashioned way (not for the faint hearted) or you can try a snot sucker like the bulb ones or the more sophisticated Nosefrida.
Wednesday, 18 June 2014
Understanding the reason behind the behaviour
This intuitive parenting approach makes parenting more cooperative, fun,
and most importantly —customized to your individual child. Your
children are telling you exactly how to parent them. Do you know what
they’re saying? This infographic comes straight from thechildwhisperer.com and I believe it can give any parent some insight into the cause for your childs behaviour. Your children may be a mix of two or more types, but if you explore what is going on for them, you may find a simple solution like some down time, a simple cuddle or a grand adventure may make your day go so much more smoothly!

Wednesday, 16 April 2014
Gluten Free Brownie
Good gluten free baking is hard to come by. The Internet is full of promising recipes with beautiful Pinterest worthy photos, but when you try them at home they fail. They fail epically. They are either chalky, crumbly and dry or gelatinous and slimy. *Gag*
This brownie recipe is amazing, its soft but not gooey, chewy but not dry, it is awesome.
Oh and it is easy!
Dana's Gluten-Free Actually Delicious Brownie.
Melt 150g of Butter in a large bowl or pot.
Add 2 Eggs and 1C Sugar and mix well.
Add (sift if you like, I don't bother) 1/3C Cocoa, 1C Baking Mix (either from a packet or this recipe here), 1/2 t Baking Powder, 1C (white, milk or dark)chocolate buttons or chips - optional, but recommended!
Pour into a lined 20x25cm tin and bake at 180 deg C for 25-30 min. Leave to cool for at least 10 minutes before serving, dust with cocoa or icing sugar.
Will keep in a sealed tin for about 1 week, if you forget about it, ours usually lasts 2-3 days.
Time to get my bake on!
Monday, 7 April 2014
Coping with Colic
I have heard a lot of new parents struggling with babies with 'colic' in the last few weeks. I thought it was about time for a colic blog post.
Both my babies had classic colic, and the second one had silent reflux as well. NOT A FUN TIME!
Colic is defined as: Unexplained crying for 3 or more hours a day, for 3 or more days a week, for 3 or more weeks.
What this really means is life is miserable! There is no known cause (though there are A LOT of theories) and there is no real treatment available. Colic typically starts around 3 weeks of age and seems to be gone again by 14 weeks. Leaving the longest 11 weeks of your life in the middle.
It is often assumed that colicky babies are in some kind of pain, as they are not relieved by the comforts of feeding and holding, often writhe and grunt, may start and stop their screaming very abruptly, and have a shrill cry that resembles the sound they make when they are in pain, they are often said to 'pull up' their legs while crying.
One of the
compelling reasons why colic is NOT something parents have to put up
with or accept is that in a number of cultures, colic is virtually
absent.
What causes colic?
Over
the years many explanations have been put forward about the cause of
colic. Common explanations have included that colic is caused by wind,
by maternal anxiety, by tummy troubles, by a baby’s sensitive
temperament, or by a baby’s immature brain. The ideas of stomach migraines and early food allergies have also been thrown around. While there is an element of
truth in all of these explanations, none of them fully explain colicky
behaviour, or point to what we can do to calm a colicky baby.
The
true cause of colic is what is now often referred to as a missing '4th
trimester'. Human babies (as opposed to other animals) are born before
their brains are fully developed, and before they are fully ready for
the world.
Inside the womb, a baby is very tightly bundled, she is constantly fed, she is exposed to 80-90 decibels of ‘white noise’ 24/7, and she constantly swings and jiggles about inside a sea of amniotic fluid. These are the conditions that calm a baby in the womb, and unless we make a concerted effort to replicate these conditions once a baby is born, their absence will be a cause of considerable distress to a newborn.
Many other cultures will carry a tightly swaddled baby in a sling carrier the whole day, and co-sleep at night. These babies are breastfed as soon as they become unsettled and are not expected to self-sooth or go with out their mother for the first 3 or more months.
Interestingly these cultures also do not experience colic in the way the western culture does.
Your baby wants to be held, she will sleep in your arms or on your chest but not in her bed, she will wake as soon as you put her down. It is a survival instinct, they are too young to sleep alone naturally. They need your warmth and comfort, all the tricks in the book are really trying to replicate you, why don't we as a society accept that maybe baby just needs some parent time?
See our Sleep and Settling page or Swaddling page for more details
If you think of the times of day your baby gets upset and try and re-look at your routine at this time of day. It is often tea time - other children are tired and hungry and need their dinner/bath/bedtime routines too, so baby gets handed to someone else or left to their own devices while mum gets dinner ready.
Some suggestions:
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Pre-prepare dinner/meals when baby is settled
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Enlist some help at tea time - Dad, Nana, Aunty, an older sibling or a DVD (shock horror)
- Put baby tightly swaddled in a bouncer or pushchair by the dinner table and keep baby moving with your feet while you eat.
- Sling or wrap style carriers are great - pop baby in and have two hands free to continue with what you were trying to do.
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Use a pacifier to help soothe baby
- Some babies find a deep, warm bath relaxing.
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If baby is unsettled it will do no harm to future sleep patterns if you
spend the evening with baby napping on your chest in the lounge while
you read or watch TV. In fact you will both be more relaxed and baby will
probably get more sleep then trying to settle them alone in their own
bed.
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If you choose to co-sleep it is recommended that you do so by using a
'side car' style bed - where baby has their own space.
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http://spiritedmamadotcom.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/bednest.jpg |
I hope this is helpful for those out there struggling. It's not an easy time, but it does pass (like most things with babies). If you are really struggling with your crying baby, put them down somewhere safe and have a break, call for back up if need be. Kia kaha.
Saturday, 29 March 2014
The meaning of life
I guess the message today is simple. Take stock, what do you reaaaaallly want to be doing right now? Maybe you should just get up and do it. Sit and play with your kids, walk or sit in the sunshine, visit a friend, read a book just because you want to. Enjoy the week that is coming, find the good bits that are happening around you and relish in them. Live in the now, it really is all we have.
Monday, 24 February 2014
Tips to make housework less of a chore
Getting housework done can seem totally impossible now that you have a baby. While the first 12 weeks of new parent hood is probably the most challenging time of your life, living in a chaotic living space at the same time will make it much more difficult to cope! Here are some little tips to help you contain the mess.
1) Pre-baby Spring cleanBefore baby arrives, use your nesting energy to have a big clean out. A clutter free home is MUCH easier to keep tidy.
2) Invest in some storage
Large clear plastic tubs with lids are invaluable in sorting excess toys, clothes that are too big and too small (for both mum and baby!). Before you buy them, measure your storage cupboard to make sure they fit! Use a marker pen to label them clearly.
3) Use your networks
If a friend or family member says "just let me know what I can do to help" they actually mean it. So ask! A simple "Actually would you please turn the washing on for me?" or "Could you please watch the baby for 10 minutes while I put the washing out" is all you need to say. Mothers, sisters and best mates are probably the easiest to ask without feeling like you are a pest.
4) Get your older kids to help
Even a toddler can help do some simple dusting, or run their toys to their room. Try to make tidying a race or a game with afternoon tea as a prize at the end. Encourage your kids to put away one game before they start with another.
5) Use a baby carrier
A sling, or Moby wrap or a front pack are wonderful when you need to get a few things done but baby needs mummy time. This is great for vacuuming, getting groceries or folding washing. Some skilled mamma's even manage to feed while baby hangs out in a sling.
Tip: Avoid spraying nasty chemicals or hanging upside down while baby is being carried.
6) Don't waste your time
Instead of constantly tiding and going backwards and forwards all day, use a washing basket or similar and put things that need to go away into it. Then at the end of the day carry it room to room putting away things (or better yet, get someone else to do it!).When folding washing take a little more time to have a pile for each drawer for each person, this makes putting away so much easier.
7) Get things done as you can
There's no rule that says you have to clean your house all one one day, all before lunch. Complete a few cleaning tasks each day to get housework done while still leaving you plenty of time for bonding with your newborn. For example: make Monday fold washing day, vacuum on Wednesday, shop on Thursday etc, this allows you to ignore it until then, knowing you have a time set aside for it.
8) Use the noise of the vacuum to help baby sleep.
Secure your newborn into a bouncer seat or bassinet and let the sounds of the vacuum send him off to sleep, Hopefully he'll get a good rest while within eyesight while you accomplish some household chores!
9) Spray and walk away
Spray your kitchen and bathroom down with white vingar and leave it for a while, when you go back the grime will have broken down and a simple wipe with a microfibre cloth and you are done!
10) Employ a cleaner
For busy mums who aren't comfortable accepting help from friends and family, consider hiring help. Paying a cleaning service to take care of household chores will let you focus on bonding with your newborn without the guilt of letting friends and family pitch in when there are chores to do.
At the end of the day, people come to see you (and baby) not your house, and most of us live day-to-day in more mess than we would like you to know. So RELAX and spend some time on you and baby, after all no one ever wishes they had spend more time cleaning and less time with their baby!
Monday, 17 February 2014
Real Advice for New Parents
Becoming a parent for the first time is exciting. It is also quite scarey. Some of the stories people kindly share would terrify even the bravest of souls. But there is no love without pain, and no win without sacrifice and every single parent I know, given the choice, would do it all again in a heartbeat. The little people that we love so unconditionally are very very much worth it!
Here is some advice from those that have been there and done that:
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Said by a wise not-quite-old man (my Dad) |
Be realistic
Your life for the next two years (per child) will feel similar to a constant hangover. Don't worry, go with it, even try to enjoy it - it will get better. Try to enjoy that 2am (and 3am and 4am...) snuggle, there will come a time when you kinda wish you still got them.
"Don't
sweat any of it. The small stuff or the big stuff. Humans have been
raising babies for hundreds of thousands of years. No matter what
people tell you, there is no one best way to do it. An abundance of
love, gentleness and care (for yourselves and for baby) will see you
right." - Stacey Wilson mum of 3
As long as both you and your little ones are in clean-ish clothes (seriously unless they have covered head to toe in spaghetti sauce, a little juice on their front is no worries), they are fed (always keep snacks on hand - fruit, jelly, yogurt, cheese), happy and healthy you are doing great as a parent.
Buy a truckload of facecloths - they are invaluable at cleaning pretty much anything off of everything.
When getting bibs, get good quality thick ones, preferably with domes rather than valcro. Valcro wreaks havoc in the washing machine.
If you use cloth nappies, always do the valcro up before washing them! (see above)
Holding a child throwing a tantrum is much easier side on (yes, yours will do it too, probably in a busy supermarket, when you are in a hurry to get home), you wear less kicks to the groin and they can't hit you in the face so easily. This also works carrying a screamer who won't hold your hand across the road.
Buy a drop-sided cot for your first child so that you can still reach in to get them out when you are pregnant with the next (assuming having the first hasn't put you off).
Keep a box of tissues handy in every room to mop up nasty spillages.
Keep all your nappy creams well out of the reach of toddlers at all times. Sudo-cream and carpet DO NOT MIX.
Do it your way
"You will know a multitude of great parents who give you heaps of great advice and suggestions. ....and it will all conflict with each other. They are still great parents and so will you be. Your baby will grow up - they will not remember whether you breast fed or bottle, used disposables or cloth, fed to sleep or self settled- they will remember you love them and cared for them- always have and always will." - Letitia McRodden mum of 2
You will be on the
receiving end of all kinds of advice, the best idea is to smile sweetly, nod politely and go and do
things exactly how you want to. Mum knows best. Unfortunately this may include conflicting advice from health professionals. Usually this just means there are several options that will work, pick one and stick at it for a while.
If your baby will only sleep on you, or with you or be rocked or fed to sleep. THAT'S OK! most of us do this anyway, we just don't tell everyone because it is seen as the wrong thing to do. I don't know why we hide it, it's instinctive and it is what most indigenous cultures have done for thousands of years, but now some researcher says we shouldn't and it is now seen as being the worst thing to do.
If you bed share, learn to do it safely and drop the guilt.
If you bottle feed, learn to do it safely and drop the guilt.
If you have to leave your baby to scream in the cot, so you can go outside and calm down for a few minutes so you don't shake the living daylights out of it because you haven't slept at all for 48 hours and it is still not asleep, do it safely and drop the guilt.
Also remember you can ring the Plunket helpline! 0800 933 922 for pretty much anything.
Wise words
Love them a lot. Say it often.
Enjoy all the snuggles and cuddles you can get.
Keep a book or box of special things, their first hat, or shoes, funny things they say and do, you will forget them.
Let them climb things, jump off things and generally play. Let them get dirty and don't sterilise everything around them. Generally kids know their own limits and won't do what they can't do. Some germs are good to grow a strong immune system.
No one on their death bed ever said "I wish I spent more time in the office" - don't regret placing your children above your career.
Set strong boundaries when it comes to expected behaviour, manners, responsibility and safety. Then let them play within these bounds. Try not to say no too often.
Kids are all gifted, some just take a little longer to unwrap it! Don't rush them and don't compare, they will get there in the end. If you are genuinely concerned, check with your doctor.
Get your first aid certificate in infant and child CPR, heaven hopes you never have to use it, but the 10-20 minutes it takes an ambulance to get there may be too late for a fragile little life. Arm yourself with some knowledge and skills and don't be afraid to use them!
If anyone offers you a cooked meal, folded washing or ironing, or babysitting so you can have a nap - Never say no.
In the first few months try and get outside everyday, even if it is just to the letterbox or around the block. Fresh air and sunshine can do wonders for altering your perspective and helping your outlook.
If you feel yourself slipping, and unable to cope - please, please don't try and go it alone. Ask for help. Ask your partner, siblings, parents, friends, neighbour, health visitor or Plunket line. Ask anyone that will listen. Parenting can be hard, and it mostly works out in the wash. But get some support if you need it, we all want to see you succeed!
Thursday, 13 February 2014
Perfectly Pink Princess Party
My eldest 'baby' turned 5 last weekend. As a girly girly girl she of course wanted a pink princess party. How I managed to get two girly girls, I will never know! I have learnt to embrace the pink and the frills and the dancing and to go with it. Here is a summary of her big day:
Pink, Pink and more Pink (and white, and gold)

I find parties much easier to plan for with a colour theme, pick one or two colours and go for it. This year miss princess wanted pink, white and gold. Easter eggs in a glass preserving jar added a little sparkle.
Cupcakes!
My best friend is awesome at bringing a plate to add to the offerings, it makes for one less thing that I have to make. This year it was a plate of mini cupcakes. She makes the most delicious cupcakes! We added a few mini white chocolate crowns and some silver balls and it became a plate to serve a princess.
Personalised Cookies
I love icing cookies! This is a simple sugar biscuit made a few days ahead of time, iced with royal icing.
Jelly Time
What is a party without jelly? I made a double batch, with 1/2 a cup less water and set it in a lined cake tin, then its not too tricky to cut into squares and sprinkle with sparkles.
Princess Tiara Cake
I love making cakes, the white chocolate crown was fun to make, however it was pretty scary trying to get it off the baking paper! The bottom is iced with marshmallow fondant, much tastier than bought fondant, and quite a bit cheaper to make! I used Pascal marshmallows, they made nice soft icing.
Pink Roses, Pink Juice, Pink Everthing
The girls got a little tiara each on their plates to take home. The plastic roses were a warehouse bargain and the little milk bottles I got from a glass wholesaler.
We played a simple round of pass the parcel (known in our house as "castle-castle" thanks to miss 3's mis-interpretation of the words) and a hunt-for-the-chocolate bars in the garden. Other than that the kids just played in the lounge. This was also the first time we have held a party over lunchtime (11-1). It was great, they were all gone by 1.30 and I wasn't up until midnight cleaning and tidying up, and we got to spend the afternoon playing with her new toys. Miss 5 really enjoyed her party, in fact her exact words were "that was my best day EVER!" I encourage you to go out of your comfort zone with parties, try something you have never tried before, you only get each party once, make it memorable.
Wednesday, 5 February 2014
20 Great Baby Shower Gifts that make life Easier
The biggest problem I always have is finding a good gift! Below are some of the newest and ingenious baby and parenting products I have found. The wonders of Internet shopping is you are not limited to what you can buy locally. Many of these products are, however, NZ designed and NZ made.
1) A swaddle or wrap (or two)
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www.itibaby.co.nz |
2) Contour Burp Cloths
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http://www.kiwiindustries.com/proddetail.php?prod=B_BPDPTDS |
3) Kai Carrier
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http://www.kaicarrier.co.nz/shop.html#!/~/product/category=0&id=27711960 |
The innovative multi-use reusable Kiwi food pouch, Kai Carriers are fun and environmentally friendly!
4) Sippy Strap with Suction Cup
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http://www.etsy.com/listing/102789007/bottle-tether-toy-tether-sippy-strap |
5) Hold Me Close Nursing Scarf
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http://www.etsy.com/nz/listing/130048641/ready-to-ship-hold-me-close-nursing
Super fashionable and very handy to have when a new mum is out and about! It will make her confident to feed anywhere.
6) The Baby Shusher
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http://www.babyshusher.com/index.php/products/baby-shusher.html |
7) Gentle Battery-Operated Nail Trimmer
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http://www.hipbabygear.com/Buzz-B-battery-operated-nail-trimmer-by-ZoLi_p_1702.html |
It safely trims nails with a gentle yet effective oscillating action. The cushioned pads are specially designed for baby's nails so it won't harm surrounding skin.
8) A Sibling Ride-a-Long Board
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http://www.hipbabygear.com/Stokke-Xplory-Rider-Sibling-Board_p_1118.html |
9) On-the-Go Changing Mat
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http://www.quirky.com/products/141-toob-baby-changing-station/timeline |
10) The Safe Sippy
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http://www.mumiandbubi.co.nz/safesippy2.htm |
11) Solids starter Kit
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http://www.mumiandbubi.co.nz/solidsstarterkit.htm |
12)The Travelling Crib
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http://travelheroes.no/b2c_no/Servlet?page=11&parent=sD117&sort=10&anr=RO855000 |
13) Good Quality bibs
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http://www.littlekiwis.co.nz/#!bibs/c1gim |
14) Reusable breast pads
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http://www.breastmates.co.nz/shop-management/products/h/breastmates-breast-pads-(multipack).aspx?cat=8900 |
15) Clip-on Cami
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http://www.breastmates.co.nz/shop-management/products/f/clip-on-cami-(colours).aspx?cat=8925 |
16) A ring sling or moby carrier
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http://kiwibabyshop.com/products/easycare-wrap-conversion-ring-sling-with-sbp-shoulder |
17) Felted Soap
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http://www.itibaby.co.nz/#!felted-soap/c1fdg |
18) Baby Kauri Teething Peg
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http://www.cleverbastards.co.nz/the-store/kids/baby-kauri-teething-peg/36940 |
A NZ made keepsake handcrafted & a comfort for teething times to soothe sore gums.
19) A Personal Assistant kit
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http://www.littleandsorted.co.nz/our-kits/ |
20) An Iti Baby Giftbox
www.itibaby.co.nz |
For those times you really can't decide, Iti Baby has you covered - quality products, great price and beautifully gift wrapped.
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